MLM Etiquette Part One

So Kayla asked a couple interesting questions you might find intriguing.  Let’s start today with the first one:

“It has been my understanding that if someone was part of a network marketing company, it was poor etiquette to recruit them. I have personally had times where I told someone I was with a company and they actively tried to recruit me to their company. In those cases, I felt it was rude and disrespectful, not to mention pushy and annoying.

“That stated, in the past few weeks, I have learned that two of my friends, both involved in companies, have left those companies and joined others. I would have loved to talk to them about my company and see if it would have been a good fit for them. So, what is the proper way to handle people already involved in a company?”

If someone is your real friend, they know about you and what you do.  And you know about them and what they do.  It’s bad form to pitch someone in another company.  We all need to afford each other that professional respect.

Now if I found out that one of my friends left their company, went to another, and never gave me a chance, I would be disappointed as you are.  And this certainly has happened to me.  Many times.

I could assume that they determined that they weren’t interested in my product line, have misgivings about my compensation plan, or don’t think I’m a good sponsor.  Since obviously any of these three possibilities are the ravings of a crazy, demented schizophrenic – I assume they are a crazy, demented schizophrenic, or something else came into play.

They may have been in deal A and someone with no professionalism pitched them into deal B and they just jumped ship.  They may have left their company and were immediately prospected by another close friend or relative they always wanted to work with.  Or any one of a thousand other possibilities..

So I can’t worry about this.  We’re now up to seven billion people in the world.  Personally, I only need two million on my own team.  So there’s plenty for everyone!


29 thoughts on “MLM Etiquette Part One

      1. Thank you! “Loose” instead of “lose” is just another of those things that grind my last nerve. Another is sell vs sale. grrr!

  1. I think there are more paths here. Not all MLM’s are the same. I have been involved at times in several. There are some which require all of your time period. There are others that are not so demanding. And there are some which help you in any MLM you belong to. All of us have seen people we know recruited by another and wondered if we should have said something, or said something differently than we did. So, now for my take:
    1. I think it is ok to let people know you are involved in network marketing and that you feel it might be a good fit for them (as long as you do).
    2. But If a person has told you plainly that they are not interested then whether or not they are involved in MLM, stop trying to push them. I have had so many people call me, pretend that they are interested in my business, then continue on to explain to me why their business is better than mine, and I should quit and join them.
    I have never encouraged anyone to quit what they are doing and join me. And I know when to take no as an answer.

  2. Like most people I get frustrated with networkers pitching me on their new beaut best product terrific comp plan deal BEFORE they have built a relationship with me.

    I assume that people move because they are disgruntled with their current opp but generally go with people they already know.

    I would think this to be especially true with the big hitters in the industry. I can’t recall any stories of ‘Joe Average’ becoming a ‘superstar’ because he sponsored a big hitter.

    Wouldn’t you agree Randy? Who got you out of retirement? And if you were to move, wouldn’t it be because you were disgruntled and you’d team up with someone you know, like and trust?

  3. Randy I have the highest respect for you and all you do and say but I was once a “headhunter” and when I was looking to fill a job for a client I recruited people out of one job into another. That’s what headhunters do. Buy showing an opportunity to a grown up adult withiout any arm twisting they can make their own decision what is best for them, especailly if they can do better in another place. I understand that focusing developing your one MLM is imporotant but what if the other compliments is different and helps you promote your product such as Talk Fusion?

  4. I would always prospect other networkers, but as soon as they tell me they are happy where they are – game over.

  5. Over the years I have had a number people try to pitch me their deal even after I told them I was with a great company and happy with it. I have always let others know up front that I am not interested in another company, I with this one _______________!

  6. Hi RG,

    Abundance. Dwell on it. Think about it. Feel it. You will not feel the need to recruit someone away from their current team when residing on a creative – instead of competitive – plane of thought.

    If someone pursues me – or is attracted to me – from another company of course I let them in, if they are a good fit for my team. No recruiting here, just accepting someone who is ready for a change.

    Thanks for sharing RG.


  7. I feel there’s nothing bad in prospecting someone who is already with another company, as long as you know when to call it quits and not become pushy. I do get a lot of calls from MLM colleagues trying to offer me a new opportunity and I don’t count it as an offence against them. I might be interested in their offer just like anyone else, and this could be down to a couple of reasons…

  8. Assuming you don’t have competing products; say your friend is in the legal services industry and your in the wellness industry, wouldn’t it be totally appropriate to introduce your friend to what you’ve got leading with the products alone?

    Share your excitement with what you’re doing and leave it at that. Or maybe could even say something about how you know they’re happy with their legal services business but if they ever were to make a move to be sure and let you show them the business side of your deal before they make a decision on another deal.

  9. All PITCHERS and no one to cover the basis or the outfield…. I agree, let your family, friends and even your collegues know what it is you do without PITCHING… Make it intriguing where they’ll want to know more…. But this part I do know: When you drive up in your brand new company sponsored/paid for vehicle, when you “move on up to the eastside”, when you and your family start taking more frequent vacations, your kids start attending private schools, and it becomes clearly obvious that your residual income checks are creating and building a lifestyle for you and your love ones that others merely sit around and dream and talk and hope for, at that point you wont have to open your mouth! Your family and your friends and your collegues will be beating your door down wanting to know what you’re doing and how they can do the same!

  10. Everybody is independent,free and can does what is the best according to him.Every day we must do lot of choice , and this is one of them only.


  11. Hey Randy,
    You didn’t lose what you never had,or almost have.Thete is a saying like this,
    The better posibiliry is whtn you have only one bird in your hands, than ten
    birds on your tree.
    You can recruit more 2000000 for your company and your oganization,if
    are able to train and teach them the system ,be there for them, when hey need your advice and guidance.I think that you can do it

  12. There is a very subtle difference in trying to “poach” people from their company and just “suggesting” that perhaps they should “look” at your business. Its all down to hoe you approach it. Personally I know that I am with the best, so why on earth wouldn;t I want to “share” this with other people. Its not what you do.. Its the way you do it.

  13. I too was “reverse pitched” recently, very HARD! It was from a friend who had been checking out our company, and decided to join another. That was fine! It was a skin care company and although it sounded interesting, I just couldn’t get passionate about it and didn’t want to split my focus from what I was already doing. That wasn’t good enough though, and there was some borderline hostility in the pitch (“you’re crazy if you don’t join me”) and the friendship seems gone now.

  14. I think that it depends on your motive. If it is only to make money off of you then maybe the motive is wrong. If they have a sincere desire to help you and see that you have a need for their business products that would possibly benefit you more than them then I think that they have the right to share their company.

    I recently was diagnosed with cancer and a friend in another company suggested that i look into their company because the flagship product inhibits the growth of cancer and has been proven at a major university. I am so blessed to know about this company and to be taking their supplement so I think this person had my best interest in mind as well as their business.

    Fast forward a few months and I brought someone else in as a wholesale buyer and then their spouse did not like it saying that they had decided not to join. I was pretty disappointed that this couple had known about this product that inhibited cancer and had not bothered to share it with me months ago knowing that I was fighting cancer.

    In that case the one who did not cross recruit was more interested in their owns selfish desires than the cross recruiter who wanted to see me survive cancer and cross recruited in order to share their new company and products that would benefit me greatly.

    This has changed my perspective on cross recruiting. If I know someone who needs to know about this cancer inhibited supplement, I will cross recruit before I let them potentially die and I never knew if they could have benefited and lived longer using my company’s products.

    A offline business does not survive off of carrying just one corporate line. They would not be able to keep the doors open. Network marketing is a business and in order to survive while you build momentum and volume, you may need to incorporate multiple streams of income from complementary niches.

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