How to Kill Fear

This is the final post in our series about overcoming fear.  If you haven’t read the first three articles, they are on overcoming fear of success, fear of failure, and fear of rejection.  Now let’s conclude with three very important points I want to share with you about fear in general. 

1)   There is no such thing as a fearless leader.

You’ve probably sat in the back row or nosebleed section of a convention or other major event at some point and compared yourself unfavorably with the speakers on the stage.  They could be wearing a suit that cost more than your automobile, and they just seem so poised, confident and assured.  You could easily come to the conclusion that they are fearless.

But you’d be wrong.  Very wrong.

In reality, there is no such thing as a fearless leader.  Really.  We all have fears we have to face on a regular basis.  And we all have candidates on our own candidate list that we’re nervous or anxious about approaching.

The reason that top leaders are on the stage receiving awards is not because we aren’t afraid to call certain prospects.  It’s because we called them in spite of those fears.  Or sometimes we call them because of those fears.

2)   No one ever had a breakthrough in their comfort zone. 

Ever.

If you want to become a top leader in your company and the profession, if you want to cash the big bonus checks, drive the bonus cars and earn the exotic trips – you have to stop doing only the things that are comfortable to you and start doing some things that scare you.  Because that’s where the breakthroughs live.

3)   Action neutralizes fear.

Think back to high school when you had to break up with someone.  Or if you’re a boss and ever had to let someone go who wasn’t right for a position.  What’s the best course of action?  Do it and get it over with fast.

Make the calls.  It doesn’t matter if the prospect says yes or no.  It really doesn’t.  What matters is that you made the calls.  Because by making the calls, you built character, got experience, and learned lessons that will make you stronger in the end.

And that, is what will take you to where you really want to be!

-RG

33 thoughts on “How to Kill Fear

  1. Incredible!
    My team always sees me as “having the perfect words” “able to talk to anyone” “great presentation” and internally…I beat myself, feel like I lost my brain and stumbled and stammered.

    All perspective.

    We are always harder on our selves when trying to improve than others will ever be.

    Thank you for the great posts Randy!

  2. As an employer if I ever had to let someone go I agonized over it for nights. Finally just doing what I had to do and it was over. Same with calling the “big shots”. Just Do It. And by the way that phrase was not coined by Niki but by A.L. (Art) Williams

  3. Fear of rejection is my biggest problem. What if they are angry at me. What if… What if….. Now i accept my fear in order to overcome it. Thanks Randy.

  4. I can also personally tell you that I have so much fear in speaking with people when it comes to presenting my “business”. But never had fear to be on stage, teaching people (as I was a university professor back in the days!). I don’t know why its so hard for me to be prospecting people on the phone. And I have a feeling that it is more of “fear of rejection”.

    Thank you for this post!

    1. Dear Pinki,

      While prospecting people and showing them your business, do you really believe that you give them a present?
      If so, be proud to speak to them!
      You were lucky to get this opportunity, now it’s your obligation to give it to other people. Tell them the story and let them choose for themselves. 🙂

  5. Fear is absolutely the only thing keeping people from success in this business. There are only three questions people ask themselves when presented with network marketing: Can I do it, does it work, and will you help me. Most of the time when they say no it’s because they don’t think they can do it. It’s easy to prove it works and that you’ll help them, thus getting them to the point they believe in themselves is an art form learned through practice in this industry.

  6. Hi, everyone, I am agreeing with Jason, fear is a part of your life; it is natural in human being. Most of time it disturbs your normal life. So don’t hide from it, face it. Fear is one of the important things that help to get success, because fear to be failed gives you an extra energy to put more efforts at work.

  7. Thanks for the great article Randy. I once heard a leader say: “It’s ok if you’re afraid, as long as it doesn’t interfere with your performance.” The action kills fear piece is awesome.

  8. I had very similar fears when I started… I was scared to talk to people and didn’t know how they would react. I got my first conversion through my website and the free ebooks that I have on there to help others get started. After the first I slowly gained confidence and more and more reps signed up and I began to interact with them. This basically eliminated my fears completely and made me feel comfortable and in my element. Now I am the top consultant in my team and I do not have any problems talking with strangers about my business, product, and opportunity.

  9. F.E.A.R False Evidence Appearing Real..Its amazing to me that this is such a killer for so many people I have been terrified of “What people think” But what pushed me through was literally the pain of not doing is vs the pain of doing it… The perception that I has was completely within my own mind and once I got over that it was easy to gain momentum!

  10. fear is no real.
    The only place that fear can exist is in our thoughts of the future, it is a product of imagination, causing us to fear things that do not at present and may not ever exist.
    That is near insanity!

  11. Keep on Rockin it John you’re Awesome. You keep it totally real no hype and provide 100% solid network marketing business value, advice and teaching! Anyone needing to learn more about how to build a network marketing business can find
    great information on your blog! Very glad to now you my friend. Have Great day and keep on moving forward.

  12. Randy,

    Thank you for sharing another great post. I just went through your Duplication Nation course, and now continuously plugging into your blog posts and other courses, thank you once again! It’s nice to know that everyone, even industry leaders at one point face some sort of fear.

  13. Thanks a lot Randy for this awesome post.. its been very useful for development of my business .. cheeers.. !!!!!

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  15. Usually people doesn’t want to create breakthrough unless it is forced on them by external force.. But once they reach the point they break the fear and comes up with bang.. You have rightly mentioned breaking point is important to kill the fear…We should not wait for the breaking point… We should create the opportunity to reach the heights… Thank you for the wonderful post

  16. Hey Randy, been reading through your posts. This was another great one. I was always told FEAR stands for “False Evidence Appearing Real”. I never really had fear but I’ve seen many people who have. It’s really all a mindset. Some people have to work on it harder than others. Thanks.

  17. I really learnt a lot from this statement.
    For sure we fear what doesn’t hurt thanks Randy for that amazing information

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