In the last post, Tomoe asks, “How did you conquer your biggest fear? And don’t tell me it was about taking action. What was the process that went on in your head?”
Well my dear Tomoe, I have to say that taking action is a big part of it. Action almost always kills fear, or at least makes it manageable. As to what goes on in my head, I’m a pretty logical guy. And I know that not taking action will keep the pain going forever. So I just figure it’s better to go into action and get it over with, kind of like when you need to just jump into the pool or ocean.
So I make myself pick up the phone and call a candidate, because not calling anyone will only lead to failure. And I have a rule that I can never end on a bad call. So if someone rejects me outright – which really almost never happens – I have to do another one right after. Which always goes better. That either leaves me with a good feeling, or I decide to keep calling others.
Other people in the community had helpful thoughts. Cliff suggests, “I have to remind myself every day of my responsibilities. It’s the self-talk and belief in what I’m doing that carries me through, in spite of my fears. The process of conquering fear is as simple as understanding the emotion that is created, and oddly enough it’s the exact same emotion as excitement. To the mind its the same…so when it comes time to pick up that phone, just tell yourself you are getting excited.”
And WealthyRocketWoman adds, “The Universe Rewards Courage.”
So everyone, get into action!