Your "Sacred Circle"
Last post we talked about disbelief. What that really is, is a rock solid belief that something can’t work. Or put another way, a belief in limitations.
Reminds me of a funny cartoon I saw recently. It showed a little child in bed, clutching his teddy bear, and his father being mangled by some kind of monster under the bed. The caption had the kid saying, “See I TOLD you so!”
And that’s the thing about disbelief. There will always be people around – plenty of them – to tell you all the reasons things won’t work. For every person seeking greatness, there are hundreds more charged with safeguarding mediocrity.
That’s why the five people closest to you are so important. I call them your “sacred circle.” Give some thought to who they are in your life. Do they challenge you to greatness, or safeguard mediocrity?
-RG
Disbelief is really “awe” in what I’m “doing” when it comes down to my success, by disproving all those who told me, “don’t.”
WOW… DUDE… Right on!!!!
my inner circle is rock solid…. pushing, driving in a concerted effort and focus… they challenge me, call me out when needed and spur me on to succeed…
so little emphasis is placed on this, and it is of MONUMENTAL importance.
people read about Bush, Kerry, and others being supposed Bonesmen, they read about the Masons and their secret sects, they read about Scientology and they get sucked into the conspiracy crap but they miss the bigger picture. SACRED CIRCLE!
There are so many books on this subject it is mind boggling, but even with that being the case, how many people really take a concerted, focused effort to build their team (Sacred Circle)?
I recommend people read your book, Why You’re Dumb Sick and Broke often… and ask them to share with me their feedback of the book share with me some things that hit home for them… and rarely does anyone reference page 92 Key 4…. and it BLOWS my MIND…. you even mention it in your Midas Mentality Program….
form time to time I recommend Robert Allen’s books Cracking the Millionaire Code, and One Minute Millionaire and when i touch base with the people i asked to read the book, most don’t finish it, and the ones who do finish it still don’t get the MONUMENTAL importance of building this inner circle.
People that read Napoleon Hill’s Classic Law of Success, (rarely do they finish it) or they opt to read Think and Grow Rich, and still walk away missing this important point.
Robert Allen’s organization is always sending me emails dated like 1/18/38 titled “How Morons Make Millions” this is exactly how… they have an solid strong motivated focused sacred circle.
i don’t want to get all political here but if we’re looking for proof of the massive POWER of the SACRED CIRCLE we could reference a couple of America’s most recent presidents… their lives are fraught (according to Tigger “you just can’t argue with a word like fraught”) with disaster, ruined companies, drinking, womanizing, many more things that can be classified as more than just plain stupid.
in a book one of them was complaining how his daddy didn’t believe in him… bla, bla, bla,… he ruined companies he was in charge of he flaked out of responsibilities, the things they did were to put it mildly, IDIOTIC … but if you step back and ask how could such people be elected into the highest office of the most powerful country in the world… the answer is SACRED CIRCLE!
(my thinking is… if these Morons Can Make Millions and accomplish so much with their sacred circle… ANYONE can succeed in some thing as simple as MLM [whether they believe in MLM or not] or any other business if they have a good sacred circle of people around them)
I am so glad you are touching on this subject… can’t wait to see all the comments from this one….
as always… luv ya… have a great weekend… peace out!
Ya know this inner circle is really great if the support is there…what do you do when your partner, your husband, wife, is not in your corner. Try building a business, holding PBR’s sorry, scheduling PBR’s for your home whenyou run into absolute blockage. Pretty hard to duplicate fundamentals like PBR’s in your home when you are unable to do them yourself. I’ve had a rough morning, can you tell. Mentors and leaders who truely want the very best for you will say your inner circle is key and to be around like minded people, stay focussed and positive, read and learn, through Personal Development and then pratcice what you learn….for some of us, you still have to go to sleep and wake up the next morning with your inner circle and if the support for this industry is not there…. I’m happy for you Chip, and others who have that support and strong inner circle, my mom would say I’m one of the most stuborn people she knows but she’d always follow up with, becasue of this, you can do anything, anything you want to, if you just put your mind to it. For the most part during my life she has been right, now with a partner, kids, home of my own, what I want,… thanks mom for believing in me.
hey there Anonymous…
believe me i know what you are talking about when you say what if your family, is not in your corner. i have been there. and it is not an easy place to be. that balancing act is a hard one to pull off.
The time with the children and loved ones has never been an issue with me, i make it a priority to schedule my time very very carefully. but the support of the ones i love the most, souse, parents, relatives is non-existent because of my success and endeavors they are convinced i am an elitist snob, if i show up to a family event in a $150,000 car they claim i am showing of my success to make the family look bad. if i hire a caterer for a family get together and provide ice sculptures and classical music as a backdrop they claim i think i am better than them and rub their noses in my success.
every book i write gets met with volumes of negativity from them, things like how can i think i am such an authority when i am so young, and all the ways they would have done it better… the list goes on and on and on like this. rather than continue to put up with it, i made one of the hardest decisions of my life. i followed the advice of Napoleon Hill and cut out ALL negative influences from my life including them.
I have tried to build several successful businesses while in that negative situation and many have failed… i could write several volumes describing my failures… DUDE they are MANY…
here is a short list of some of the multimillion dollar ideas i had to leave on the design floor…
credit card processing marketing company
real estate investment
Men’s clothing and tailor clothing company
the FIRST Trek phaser remote control
mini-laptop tablet book reader (i designed over 17 years ago)
Specially designed water treading tires (25 years ago when i was still in high school)
Making Martial Art training Videos for distance learning (20 years ago)
Laptop and Desktop casing “Skins” (15 years ago)
Mobile office accessories design and manufacture (12 years ago)
Controls for blinkers and lights on the center shift arm like a fighter jet (10 years ago)
Camera infra red auto anti-theft system (8 years ago)
on the other hand i have found a way to build many successful businesses amongst the negativity. rather than explaining in detail how, in a nut shell for sake of time i kept it a SECRET from my family and loved ones. almost like living a double life. it is not easy, it is not fun, and it is stressful. and once it started to gain momentum it was hard to keep it a secret any more. even at the the negativity did not stop. continuous measures to sabotage my efforts went into over drive until i walked away from the negativity of the situation.
in the Law of Success Hill actually advises the reader to divorce:
“A man’s chief business in life is to succeed. The road to success may be, and generally is, obstructed by many influences which must be removed before the goal can be reached. One of the most detrimental of these obstacles is that of unfortunate alliance with minds which do not harmonize. In such cases the alliance must be broken and the end is sure to be defeat and failure.
It is a million times better to meet and face criticism than to be dragged down to failure and oblivion on account of alliances which are not harmonious, whether the alliance be of a business or social nature.
To be perfectly frank, the author is here justifying divorce, when the conditions surrounding marriage are such that harmony cannot prevail. This is not intended to convey the belief that lack of harmony may not be removed through other methods than that of divorce; for these instances where the cause of antagonism may be removed and harmony established without taking the extreme step of divorce.” pg 112 Lesson 1
my inner circle is like how Randy describes it, it is my Sacred Circle, we make sure no negative influences can touch the circle.
this is the best way to succeed, when you put together a team of people that think, act, and work together in harmony, you as a team build your business, and you are free to build when you schedule permits, and give guidance and expertise via communication channels. as a team you build and move forward.
take a look at Tim Berry and Julie Mirr, they are a working team, Tim is married and has his own family and the same is true with Julie, together they buidl a successful organization.
“Your greatness lies in your ability to create an extraodinary Dream Team” R. Allen
You can pick up a copy of the movie A Beautiful Mind and listen and watch as John Nash explains the beginnings of his Nash Equilibrium, the best result will come from everyone in the group doing what’s best for himself and for the group.
The best result is where every entrepreneur creates wealth for themselves as well as for the group — but not in that order. the best result comes when the individual entrepreneur creates wealth first for the group them for themselves.
my life has been fraught with disappointments, failures, negativity and hardships…. failed marriages and much much more… like every other successful person in the world i don’t dwell on the failures and negativity, i move forward to achieve my goals and make improvements along the way, learn my lesson and move on.
the decisions are not easy, the road is definitely not paved but i will tell you when i arrive at my goal and look back on the experience it was worth it.
hope that helps…
peace out
thanks Chip for your reply, I plan to read it a few more times and might have a follow up but till then thanks for the words, it is difficult almost impossible, almost but I am stubborn, I just hope that I can pull through in time to really capitalize on the industry in such a manner to make “concrete” proof of it! “$$” I know its there, I just want my share. yeah ok that was corny. Later
some how my first reply to you was flagged as SPAM and was sent to the moderator to be approved…. and i don’t see it posted as of yet??? hmmm?
that is weird…
I don’t have anyone on my side everyone that I know is waiting to see me fall flat on my face of course I have support of my upline but thats it.
We’re here for ya William! You let me know how I can help you!
And look who I bump into online here… This is some powerful shit….
That’s nice of you to give encouragement Bones…
I think it easier to get a sacred circle than go out and sell…Maybe I’ll give out information to people once they qualify themselves as worthy…That will change everything…
William:
If you work this this business properly you will have the support and friendship of those you sponsor. Just keep asking those you meet if they are looking to make a change to their lives…they are out there!
Believe me those waiting for you to fall, have a part of them saying they wish they had your guts to do something. You can be proud you decided not to lead a life of quiet despiration like them.
Make it happen!
start building your sacred circle… take inventory of the people who qualify and are interested…
randy might be a good start… and Bones Rodriguez is offering to help, he also seems like a great guy to have on your side. you are off to a good start. put the word out and before you know it you just might have your own monumentally successful sacred circle set up?
peace out
Boy, what an excellent subject. I learned long ago about my “sacred circle” and was easier for me to maintain while in corporate world–built one to continually push each other or else. THEN, becoming a Network Marketing Professional and home based business, struggles began as I do not think “divorce” is an option at this point! Truly I am rebuilding my ” sacred circle” for network marketing and separating them from home life until I have a better foundation in Network Marketing.
I have heard that from you before and how you had to leave a significant other in order to allow yourself to take advantage of this ride. Not only is it the scared 5, but it is the choice in personal relationship that may be more important. Napoleon Hill said in Think and grow rich that one of the biggest causes of failure in individuals is wrong choice of a mate in marriage, another even bigger cause is failure to rectify the latter. I have been studying abundance manifestation for 13 years now. I was shifting quite quickly until I met my wife 7 years ago. Since then I noticed that I had to hold back on the reins because she had fear of the speed, just like driving in a fast car, it is not very much fun when the person beside you is screaming for you to stop. I see that with so many, they join prosperity groups then go home and argue about it with their spouse, whether it be a network Marketing group, or a self help seminar, it is time for people to pay attention to what kind of energy relationship you have with your spouse. Some people are very afraid to be alone and they think secretly that if the other makes enough money, they are gone. So pay attention and find out if your mate is secretly tearing down your dreams. They usually don’t know that they are doing it. If it turns out they are, you have two choices,(as usual), Let them know what they are doing, so you both can grow, or move into your own adventure so you both can grow. Thanks Randy for helping me understand this. I met you once at a Usana Convention around 8 years ago, inspirational….
Here’s the thing- I know this is an NWM forum and stuff, but I really enjoy my friends who let me do whatever I feel like doing, and who are my friends anyway. They don’t have to agree with everything, just like I don’t have to agree with everything they are doing- I believe in giving each other FREEDOM.
What I mean by that is that my inner circle is good with me doing WHATEVER I want, and they do NOT push me to do whatever it is I am not doing. That’s not to say they wouldn’t tell me if I were in trouble (they do), but they aren’t necessarily “challenging” me all the time, or “pushing” me, ‘cuz that gets old fast, and frankly doesn’t create an environment for freedom for me.
I’m not talking about “safeguarding mediocrity”, I’m talking about freedom to direct my own life, and giving them freedom to direct their own, and being part of each other’s journeys.
Hi Randy,
Don`t know if I want to get in to this discussion but in my world, (the world of NLP) Your believes is the red thread in Your life and if they are right or wrong the eyes of the spectator may be irrelevant. If you have, some limiting believes which You want to get rid of. DO IT. Take responsibility for Your life.
Keep it up
Lars
I have a few good sacred’s, but I need a few more really good ones!
After reading Chip’s comment, I have nothing more to say…
Agree with every idea… not the wording 🙂
Love you all
Alfredo Rodrigues
Man i thought for sure this subject would be the spark that ignites a dazzling fireworks display of timely, heart warming and insightful thoughts, stories and examples….
maybe it is too soon to tell? maybe cuz its the weekend? its monday morning for me so it is sunday night for the US… maybe everyone is busy for the weekend?
peace out…
I can definitely see how the closest people to you can influence your successes or your failures. When support is offered you are pushed on to greatness and sometimes even opposition can fuel a desire to defeat the odds; but what about when those closest to you are neither hot or cold? They just don’t care. I believe that is when you need to dig deeper into yourself and find the drive from within!
Hey guys,
Just want to say THANK YOU for everyone participating and supporting each other here. This is exactly the kind of forum I envisioned and was hoping for when I started the blog. It’s great to see the profession pulling together. Great job!
-RG
I love it! This is a topic that too many people overlook and try to do “in spite of” or think that their family is the only one – ha! Not only do I find it extremely common, I now think that it is extremely rare to have a family that is completely supportive and enrolled in your vision. If you do have one, thank them daily and be very grateful for their support! Practice your gratitude daily for all those in your life that do offer positive words and encouragement – by doing this, you will attract more like it! It isn’t easy to put yourself out there every day and I acknowledge everyone here that does!!
This has been my experience over the past few months, since I have been involved with my company: I have met the greatest people, people who are getting the best out of me and make me realize who I really am. For some of us, joining an MLM company was like a quantum Leap. I didn’t even know what MLM meant! The reality, anyways, is that my old friends are still there in the background, but we don’t relate in the same way. My sacred circle is changing, and it is great. It is like the real ME is suddenly coming out. You just have to allow it though. That’s the hard part. You have to let go of your old sacred circle. The ones that follow you in your endeavors will stay in it, the others will slowly drift away and you’ll let them go. It will be for the best!
Hey Randy,
I must really say that this is one issue I have really being wanting to hear discussed. The importance of the sacred circle cannot be overemphasized. Every single person who comes in our lives or stays in our lives or passes through our lives has an effect on us no matter what we think and this effect is either negative or positive. It cannot be neutral.
Just like having a lot of ammunition in preparation for a fierce battle, It is important to be prepared for things like this and know what to do when the situation arises.
Everything around us is energy including ourselves. We only grow and become better people when positive energy meets positive energy. It’s that simple like arithmetic. Negative energy and positive energy cancel out and yields no result. Sometimes the negative can even be more than the positive.
I am no exception to the reality of this discussion as I joined an MLM company about 4 months ago. I have noticed that my relationship with my previously close friends has begun to hang on a thin thread. I am no longer interested in the things that they are interested in and it gets worse by the day.
One of the things I learned from one of the greatest men in history, Ralph Waldo Emerson in his “Self Reliance” Essay is to Insist on yourself, trust the instinct in you that tells you the right way to go. Shun recommendation of so called friends. Be yourself. Live your life not for a spectacle but for itself and when push comes to shove, the will eventually like you because you were not a trap for their liking or disliking but you held on to your way and scorned their disappropation.
I hope this goes a long way to help us all.
b.k from Nigeria.
Ok I think this is where the LOA thing comes into play as well.
Really examine how many non-nurturing people you have in your life right now- and then ask what am I willing to do about this? I’ve been reading a lot of Abraham-Hicks books lately where they talk about getting into the “Vortex” which is really just aligning yourself with who-you-really-are. Once you do that, consistency, daily- then there will be no place in your life for the nay-sayers.
The belief that you have to entertain these people just because they are family is nonsense. I “divorced” myself from my father and his wife 2 years ago because of the toxicity they bring. Once I got clear about who I am and what I want, there is no room for those who don’t fit the pattern. When I do see my father- maybe once or twice a year- he is -positively- noticably different towards me.
So the lesson is to be very clear and committed to who-you-are and what you really want in business, in life, in love.
I am profoundly hearing impaired and it is very challenging for me to listen to audio tapes. Could you give me a list of good mlm educating books to read besides Napolean Hills (since I have all of his books)?